One of my 2025 goals is to welcome change and uncertainty, but despite feeling grateful for this rare opportunity to explore new possibilities, the unpredictability of my future often gives me anxiety. As I work to tackle this, I’ve been learning some important lessons I’d like to share.

I am an oversharer. It feels totally natural to me to share deeply personal details and self-reflections with store checkout clerks, Uber drivers, and nearly everyone else I randomly encounter.

When I left my marriage, I thought I knew exactly what I wanted to find in a man. My analytical mind had been assessing what I could bring to a romantic partner and what I wanted from them through nearly every moment of my 20-year relationship. Yet, as I dip my toes into the dating pool, I’m learning that I actually like some of the things I thought I disliked, and vice versa.